"I want to be my own design" Clive Barker - Imajica

Friday, January 31, 2014

Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

Seriously, it is. I've been working on some projects both personally and professionally lately and I have found that I have made some assumptions about other people. Their knowledge levels, their skill levels, even their common sense and ability to think critically.

Thing is, it's not their fault if I make assumptions about stuff. It's not their fault if they don't know what I talking about, what I want to do, where I want to go unless I communicate it to them clearly and concisely. I can't get mad at them for not understanding something if I haven't taken the time to explain it to them.

So many people make so many assumptions and then get all hurt when things don't play out the way they want it to. Communicate better. Say what you mean, mean what you say and never assume that someone knows what you want or how to do something. k

ism's - XXIV

martyrdom is not becoming 

*fixed previous spelling error*

Thursday, January 23, 2014

The Secret

No not some lame book
It's the secret to me getting up early.
Apparently my body doesn't need as much sleep as I want it to because every time I stay up until 1 I get up at 6:30 with zero issues but if I got to bed earlier than that I tend to oversleep.
So then that happened.
But hey, that means more time to do more stuffs!

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Events and Expectations

what is with all the expectations we set for events? Things like birthdays, New Years, Christmas, prom, parties. People try to force events to be great or put so many expecations on an event that they are always going to be let down.

"This will be the best night of my life" 
"These New Years resolutions will change my life"

so I paused while writing this because I accidentally shot myself in the foot with my own Zen arrow.

I was about to start ranting about people hanging all of these unfair expectations on New Years and how they will get all upset if the night doesn't turn out the way they wanted it to.


So about that.

This past year my birthday wasn't what I wanted it to be. I had a list of a couple of things I really, really wanted for my birthday. I wanted to not have to drive anywhere, I wanted a nice dinner, I basically wanted to be pampered and treated like I was important. Instead I put about 80 miles on my car that day, I didn't even get to eat dinner and I had to hustle to get a designated driver to take me to the club and I was GRUMPY about it. I kept it to myself and it festered. This feeling of being unappreciated, undervalued and feeling like I don't matter.

And now I am calling bullshit on myself. Because bullshit.

I realized that I was doing exactly what I was about to vent about. Go figure what irritates me about other people is what actually irritates me most about myself even when I don't always realize I am doing it.

So what if my birthday wasn't what I wanted it to be. It's one day. It's just A day. We have the opportunity to make every single day great so why do we put so much pressure on ourselves and those around us on a specific day? Just because that is the day I was born doesn't make it that much more important than any other day. Or at least it shouldn't.

So yeah.

*THWACK* there goes that damned Zen Arrow.


Just my two cents

The other day this comic was posted on RobDenBleyker's facebook page, he is one of the artists who does comics for Cyanide and Happiness (one of the most hilarious and irreverent comics)

I found it hilarious for multiple reasons. The first thing I thought of was the Jim Gaffigan quote “Vitamins…they may be expensive but at least there’s no proof they work. There’s vitamins and then there’s herbal supplements which are not FDA approved and to put that in perspective…the Twinkie is. I don’t even know who herbal supplements are for…it’s like ‘Hey if you’re not wasting enough money on vitamins that don’t work, you should check out this stuff that’s kind of the horoscope of vitamins.’”

One of the other reasons I found it so amusing is because of how up in arms followers of alternative medicine get when anyone questions it or disagrees with them. Or a lot of them just assume that you are attacking their belief system, their ideals or even them. (I know, I know it’s the internets. I forget sometimes)

And boy was I right, I got multiple responses and messages regarding my comment on the comic and even my posting it on my own personal facebook. The REALLY amusing part is how condescending they were to me for posting a joke response on a joke comic strip, assuming that my comment means that I’m anti-alternative medicine when in reality that is totally not true.

Let me break it down for you now. I absolutely believe in the merits of vitamins, supplements and alternative medicine but I also firmly believe in conventional medicine. In my opinion and based on my own reading and research I believe that the two can work together for a cure or for long lasting health. It’s what is called “Complementary medicine” or “Integrative medicine” They work TOGETHER. There are certain things that I think you need modern medical science to help diagnose and cure. There are plenty of diseases and illnesses that can be treated by natural methods but there are others that cannot. This is of course just my opinion, I have my opinion and you have yours.

Do with it what you will. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, even if they don’t agree with yours.