"I want to be my own design" Clive Barker - Imajica

Friday, September 27, 2013

What have you done for yourself lately?

What do you do for yourself? What do you enjoy doing that is just for you, no one else?

I was reading something where more than one person basically said "oh I don't do anything for myself anymore since I became a parent. My life is all about my kids, it revolves around them" Or something to that effect.

It was bugging me all night and at first I couldn't' figure out why it was so upsetting to me and then BAM! I realized what it was.

Stop being a fucking martyr. Stop placing that burden on your kids. You may not even realize you are doing it or the effect that it can have on your kids.The sense of responsibility, the feeling that your happiness, your entire world revolves around that one (or more) kid. That's a heavy burden to bear.

Do you have any idea how that makes a kid feel? Seriously.

Think about it.

And if you find that you do that? Just stop it. Do yourself and your kids a favor and figure out something you like doing that doesn't involve your kids or even your significant other (if applicable). Go for a walk, read a book, whatever the case may be. But don't put that burden on your kids.

I get it, I don't know what it's like to be a parent. I cannot even imagine it as a matter of fact. I genuinely respect parents for doing what they do, it's a shit job and it's harder than anything I'd ever care to do, so thanks.

I may not have kids but I was a kid. I was a kid of someone who liked to tell me how she gave up everything for me, how she basically did nothing for herself ever because of me.

Now, tell me.

What have you done for yourself lately?

Tuesday, September 17, 2013


BEH I say

I keep trying to write this blog entry and the words spill out but it's not things I'm entirely comfortable sharing with the world.

Shit, I don't even like to admit them to myself.

Those Zen Arrows sure sting sometimes. Bastards.